Sometimes they do something and then turn his face to see their MOM or dad looking for approval or disapproval, and the response you get from the adult, that is the image of themselves that they are watching in the mirror, at that time in particular. Do not have another mirror where to look, we are its referent, until they themselves develop their personality and their own understandings. But even so, still beating inside the beliefs, those receiving their more intimate environment being children. Why are so important the first years of life, from conception to age 6 especially. Self-esteem is developed from the quality of the relationship that exists between our children and the most important people in the environment they grow. Randall Mays often expresses his thoughts on the topic.
They capture the emotional state in a given situation as radars, observed the looks, read behind words, gestures, tone of voice and body posture, and draw conclusions. Sometimes true, sometimes false, but for them all valid. Those conclusions are true or not, are those that will form beliefs about themselves. Why it doesn’t matter so much what we say but how we say it. Everything that we reflect our children will be the basis of the image will have about themselves. The opportunity to change history perhaps ourselves as daughters / I do not receive the affection and attention that we wanted, that we needed from our parents. Our parents at the same time, surely received far less than what we could give to us. Each generation delivers what he received as a legacy, and then makes its best efforts to the task of parenting.
But whatever it is that they have done so, we can choose to act from the compromise and transcend the limitations of our parents and our society. Louise Hart says in his book the happy family, our children give us the opportunity to be parents that we have always wanted to have. In a family, self-esteem begins with how to be parents. The children cannot choose how to be reared. As parents, we can become aware of transcendence that has changed us to change the future of our children, changing our beliefs and our negative patterns that they in turn transmitted same to their children, and so on from one generation to another. It may be inspiring thinking that you’re not only making the effort to change you, but that you are cutting the chain, family history, to make a wonderful and invaluable gift to your children. So where do you start? By accept you, for to love you more, by respect you and take care of your needs first. Such attitudes will enrich your relationship with your children, and they will learn to love and also to love and respect you. There is something that is now very clear to me: the imitation is not only one of the ways children learn is the only. Do you’re willing / or take the first step? Would you like to change your own family history from the love and acceptance? Why not what you do? Original author and source of the article.